In 2018, I am:

  1. continuing to simply our life
  2. working toward not eating meat; as of 1/8/18, I am on a plant-based diet
  3. learning to make warm food with the instant pot
  4. learning to make delicious salad (as of 18/18, probably not as I like my food warm and restaurants have great salad sections.)
  5. 申請多一點圖書館證
  6. 一個月聽一本有聲書
  7. 一個月用水彩畫一張圖, 從youtube找靈感, 畫S的baking creation, 幫N完成他的畫作
  8. reducing our trash. working toward zero waste home


Stories of Your Life and Others by Ted Chiang (Audio Book)
21-Day Weight Loss Kickstart: Boost Metabolism, Lower Cholesterol, and Dramatically Improve Your Health  by Neal Barnard (Paperback)

Wish List

Forks Over Knives  (Documentary)

已讀/ 聽


13 Things Mentally Strong Parents Don’t Do by Amy Morin (Audio Book) finished 2/23/18
The Magnolia Story (Audio Book) finished 1/12
Everyday a Friday (audiobook) by Joel Osteen. 1/26
My Beloved World (Audio Book) 1/6


Ants on a Shrimp (Documentary) 2/24/’18
California Typewriter (Documentary) 1/6/’18

p.s. 如透過連結購買, 我會從Amazon得到小小的回饋金.
pps. 目前以上的有聲書我是從圖書館借的. 實體書則是透過二手書店購買.

My vision board. Made 1/13/18.


a letter to my girl

You asked for having a cat last night. Even Daddy said no. You insisted, maybe you think it’s fun to keep asking while rolling on us and on the bed while we watching Japanese Drama (it was a classic, Long Vacation. Hope you can watch it with us when you are older.) And then we listed the things that you don’t want to do and we never force you, such as Chinese school, piano class, soccer- we just wanted to point out that we don’t force you do the things you don’t want to do so you should not force us to do the things we don’t want to do. I went on to say that you don’t help much with your brother; you did not help to pack his snacks for the past two days, which is fine by me, I know you were in a rush to school. I just want to make a point that when you have a pet, it’s not that you can take care of it only when you have time and energy. The living thing needs your/ our care everyday and Daddy and I don’t want to take care of the pet. Our focus is you two and our own parents.

You went to your bed quietly and would not talk to us until you slept. Maybe you took it as our criticism toward you (Daddy and I did need to work on that; be more sensitive to your growing mind). Maybe you were embarrassed because we were right.

It surprised me when you were still upset after you woke up this morning. When daddy talked to you, you wouldn’t response. I need to accept that you are growing up now. You have your feelings and emotions that are now more complicated.

I know it is hard that you cannot what you want when your friends have what you want. But I can confidently say that you can do all the things that you want even though you don’t have the materials. I can confidently say that Daddy and I spend more time with you and your brother more than the parents who provide more materials to their kids. Maybe it is more obvious to you to see the materials that others have, but for me, I can more about the time and energy we can spend together.

I will learn more patience and wisdom to guide you. And hope one day you will understand.



開始不吃動物製品, 原起是為了健康,  也為了環保. 這些之前道理都懂, 遲遲沒有付出行動是因為覺得, “我每天早上都吃吐司加蛋, 我不想放棄蛋阿!" “我不想放棄吃魚阿!" “我好喜歡拿雞湯當湯底阿!" 直到年底旅行, 回家前一天在鳳凰城的一家二手書店隨手拿起Dr. Neal Barnard的書 (之前就看過他的TED Talk), 越看越發現, 其實能吃的東西很多. 之前覺得不能放棄的食品, 也有很多健康的代替品, 就這樣, 隨著2018年的開始, 我也漸漸走向 “plant base diet." 牛牛也很支持這樣的選擇, 因為 “我還是能吃饅頭和麵包." 他這樣說. 🙂

“與其注意不能吃甚麼, 要看能吃甚麼." 因為心態的轉變, 所以不覺得吃有太多的不習慣. 反而積極地去尋找不曾留意的食材, 每天都發現簡單又健康的食譜, 迫不及待地要試試.

年初的家族聚會, 去的吃到飽餐廳是跟去年同家的. 那家餐廳有名的是中間有個蒙古烤肉的大鐵板. 本以為會沒東西吃, 驚喜地發現其實在肉類區之前他有一個蔬菜區- 我愛吃的香菇米粉包心菜花椰菜都有. 以往這些都被我當肉的裝, 這次變成主角, 裝滿滿的一大碗. 最棒的是, 吃完覺得很滿足也不覺得稱.

小孩的飲食我們不強迫. 他們依然吃漢堡, 吃魚. 我也隨緣, 上周去朋友家作客臨時被留下吃晚餐, 太太做了義大利肉醬麵, 我們甚麼都沒說, 依舊吃下肚. 但肉醬方面有特別節制, 也刻意地多吃了幾盤女主人準備的青菜, 還學了一道 – 炒kale with shiitake mushroom. (我一直都不知道怎麼吃kale, 生的對我而言太難嚼了)

進入plant based diet 已將近兩星期, 目前很喜歡, 早上起來不會特別飢餓, 但也不會有 “前晚的食物還沒消化完"的感覺. 另外還有幾個完全意想不到的好處:

  1. 我開始買比較多的水果, 小孩放學一回家吵著肚子餓就有得吃, 不會去翻零食.
  2. 做菜的時候不用再擔心生肉衛生的問題.
  3. 清洗碗盤時不再那麼黏膩. (Dr. Barnard也提倡減少用油, 因為吃的乾果蔬菜穀類已提供人體需要的油的分量.)
  4. 廚房的垃圾桶不再那麼臭.

When the kids were little, I thought that I was taking care of them and having the total control of their lives. As they grow older, I haven’t changed, but they do. Constantly.

I notice that when I get impatient with S, she is also not happy with me. Unlike when she was little, any conflict between us can be easily solved with a hug and a kiss, she would shout down responding to me even I plead for forgiveness. Impatience is a bad habit of mine, but I need to learn and grow with my kids, so we can have healthy communication.

Yesterday, after dinner and exercising in my room, I heard the laughter from the kids’ rooms as they were playing with Auntie. They see Auntie about once or twice a week and every time she is here, they have fun. I was trying to think that what I did with them the night before- I can’t think of any. Our weekday routine after work: I am in the kitchen preparing dinner while N plays Lego in his room and S reads books in her room; after dinner, it’s their screen time; after screen time, it’s wash and brush time, and then they go to sleep. I really didn’t spend much time with them during weekdays.

I want to change that. Even though I need “Me" time after work, I know that I can spend at least 15 minutes with them- either is playing with them after dinner, or talk to them when they are ready for bed. So at least they have a “Mommy and Me" time everyday.

So my goal for tonight- let them have screen time while I preparing dinner, so we can play after dinner.


after 30-minute screen time….

N: I’m bored.

M: It’s okay to be bored. I want you to be bored.

N: You are mean. Why do you want me to be bored?

M: It doesn’t have to be exciting all the time…. (continue my explanation.) Do you want to play Marco Polo?

N: Yes


如果要為2017年選個字, 我會選 Essential.

2017年是對大環境很沮喪卻又充滿希望的一年. 雖然對大選的結果很意外, 也迫使我看到一個從沒看過的世界. 一方面驚嘆居然有這樣的地方存在, 我也感受到, 大家也許說的做的支持的表現的不一樣, 我們要的都是一樣的.

Essential. Love. Peace. Family. Protection.

我依然不善於社交, 但我試著踏出自己的框框與人交流, 分享我感到熱情的事情, 也收到不錯的回應.

意外地在十二月中需要參加一個Memorial Service. 但也得以和美國的親戚相聚. 我很珍惜有這機會得與更了解我的家族.

2017年進入簡單生活的第二年. We are one house lighter .

一方面繼續簡單化家裡的物品, 一方面控管帶進家裡的東西. 遵守 “one in, one out" rule. 如果有增添東西(或衣服) 要把家裡的東西(至少)一樣淘汰. 在外面或網上就算看到心動的東西, 如果我沒辦法想到要拿哪個家裡的東西交換, 就不要購買. 我們不需要擁有所有喜歡的東西, 欣賞就好.

Looking forward 2018:

  1. continue to simply our life
  2. work toward not eating meat
  3. learn to make warm food with the instant pot
  4. learn to make delicious salad
  5. 申請多一點圖書館證
  6. 一個月聽一本有聲書
  7. 一個月用水彩畫一張圖, 從youtube找靈感, 畫S的baking creation, 幫N完成他的畫作
  8. reduce our trash. working toward zero waste home.


開學以來, 小幫浦都睡自己房間偶爾周末會來跟我睡,弟弟在自己的房間和牛牛睡, 幾次問他們要不要來主臥室跟我睡, 他們都說不要。上星期姊姊去好朋友家參加生日會, 大家看了電影 Babe後她又跑來我房間睡了 (“I hate movies…. they are creepy." She said.) 然後不知道哪天, 弟弟也在我房間睡著.

於是這星期又開始三明治的睡覺. 知道他們越大我們越不可能這樣睡,我只想珍惜僅有的機會.

星期六早上,牛牛去Cream Pan買早餐, 我們三人在賴床. 弟弟畢竟是弟弟,閒不住地弄東弄西把我惹火了, 先是對他發脾氣, 突然想到下星期這時間我就沒辦法跟他們一起賴床, 我跟他說只想珍惜這段時間, 講著講眼淚就掉下來. 弟弟看著我, 似懂非懂, 也流 下了眼淚.

我擁著他, 告訴他, 媽媽幾天就回來了.

想想幾個月前看到我哭他還無動於衷, 現在已經會感同身受, 看到我掉淚也跟著掉淚. 雖然不確定他的哭點跟我的哭點一不一樣, 確定的是,我眼中的baby漸漸長大了。

今天下午J來家裡babysit. 大男孩帶著小男孩玩得很好。想當初結婚時J才幾個月大, 現在已經是高中生能幫忙照顧小孩了.