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前陣子很喜歡在youtube上看人家的morning routine. 所謂一日之際在於晨, 也幫自己記錄一下:

人家都說, 成功的morning routine在前晚就開始- 小幫浦現在都睡自己的房間, 牛牛睡弟弟房間. 平常日, 小孩九點後就陸續入睡, 我和牛牛這陣子也都在十點半, 甚至十點前睡. 我睡前會寫Grateful Journal, 記錄兩三件今天感恩的事情. 其實就是精簡的日記.

六點, 六點半左右起床後
刮舌頭 scrape tongue
油漱口 oil pulling for 15 minutes (用椰子油, 之前試過橄欖油覺得太苦)
鹽水漱口
用Dr. Bronner Castile Soap 刷牙
喝一杯溫水內加一匙蘋果醋和一匙蜂膠(或raw honey)
照著Youtube做八分鐘的morning yoga
我的早餐是一片gluten-free toatst上抹 almond butter (之前是買Trader Joe’s 的罐裝, 最近則愛自備玻璃杯到Whole Foods 現攪), 半顆酪梨,  和自己種的沙拉葉
走路送小孩上學
回來後澆花
和牛牛喝杯咖啡
(這兩天開始)和牛牛一起用10% Happier meditate 3-10分鐘


媽媽的紀錄:

弟弟昨晚拿著絨毛小烏龜說, “I got a blue ticket again" (老師給表現好的小朋友blue ticket, 獎勵是第二天他們可以從家裡帶一個小的絨毛玩具到學校)然後把小烏龜放進背包

小幫浦今天早上是silly mode, 一直唱唱跳跳的, 還給牛牛的頭髮上綁了撮小辮子


弟弟一直說要從他(擁有起碼兩三年)的食譜裡做Superman Parfait. 星期一我終於把料買齊了, 一回到家姊姊就幫他做.

我(目前)吃不膩的早餐: Gluten-free Toast + Almond Butter + half of avocado + home-grown salad 

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M: 妳常常吼弟弟, 久了他就會覺得愛他的人就會吼他, 然後他就會教一個也會吼他的女朋友, 然後他會帶她回家吃飯, 然後她吼他的時候妳就會覺得耳朵很痛.

S: But he doesn’t have to bring her home.

M: 那沒辦法阿, 弟弟要回家吃飯, 我們會想他阿.

S: I’ll just FaceTime him.

本來以為她會答 “我並不會想他." 沒想到她居然會想到FaceTime. 媽媽心暖暖的. 🙂


弟弟這星期下課後沒有課後輔導. 小幫浦要上學前, 站在家門口朝著弟弟的房說 (他還在準備), “bye. I will see you at (下課時間.)"

So sweet!

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暑假過去對我而言沒太大的感覺, 小孩照常去托兒所, 我照常上班. 今年不知道是不是因為兩個小孩開始上同一個學校, 加上小幫浦的功課開始重了, 每天就看她急急忙忙的衝出門, 回家也好累的樣子, 六月學期結束時, 我真的有一種 “阿~ 放暑假了!"

暑假時小孩平時的after school變成全日的summer school, 牛牛和我依然工作, 但是少了一早起來趕著學校敲鐘前到學校, 也不用一直問小幫浦 “功課做完沒" (不過還是有數學補習Kumon的功課). 小幫浦又有時間being silly, 又回到我房間睡覺(雖然一起床就跑回自己房間看Kindle), 每一天都讓我感覺到暑假的美好.

六月去了一趟LA Natural Science Museum.

八月我們去了一趟Pacific Northwest: 西雅圖-> 維多利亞-> 溫哥華 (加拿大) -> 西雅圖 -> Mt. Rainer -> 波特蘭. 去的地方不多, 但是想去的都去了. 想看的家人/朋友也看了.

暑假中, 弟弟陸續掉了三顆牙齒 (年初掉了他的第一顆牙齒, 春天掉了他第二顆牙齒): 一顆在現給姊姊看時掉在姊姊房間的長毛地毯裡至今還找不到. 一顆(門牙)在從加拿大入境美國後的咖啡店休息時吃點心掉的. 一顆(門牙)在牛牛出差期間吃早餐時掉的.

牛牛出差了三天, 小朋友評論我的駕駛技術:
弟弟說 “I feel safer when Daddy is driving."
姊姊說 “I am grateful that Daddy is coming back tomorrow to drive."

年度的員工野餐, 主題是哈利波特. 小幫浦做了杯子蛋糕. 因為沒時間到albertson買她喜歡的cake mix, 在Target買了cake mix. 她加工了一下, “apparently, the trick is to add butter to make them taste better. That’s the hack I saw on Youtube."

我們看完了Britsh Bake-off Season 3.

聽完了哈利波特The Order of the Phoenix. 開始聽Half Blood Prince.

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You asked for having a cat last night. Even Daddy said no. You insisted, maybe you think it’s fun to keep asking while rolling on us and on the bed while we watching Japanese Drama (it was a classic, Long Vacation. Hope you can watch it with us when you are older.) And then we listed the things that you don’t want to do and we never force you, such as Chinese school, piano class, soccer- we just wanted to point out that we don’t force you do the things you don’t want to do so you should not force us to do the things we don’t want to do. I went on to say that you don’t help much with your brother; you did not help to pack his snacks for the past two days, which is fine by me, I know you were in a rush to school. I just want to make a point that when you have a pet, it’s not that you can take care of it only when you have time and energy. The living thing needs your/ our care everyday and Daddy and I don’t want to take care of the pet. Our focus is you two and our own parents.

You went to your bed quietly and would not talk to us until you slept. Maybe you took it as our criticism toward you (Daddy and I did need to work on that; be more sensitive to your growing mind). Maybe you were embarrassed because we were right.

It surprised me when you were still upset after you woke up this morning. When daddy talked to you, you wouldn’t response. I need to accept that you are growing up now. You have your feelings and emotions that are now more complicated.

I know it is hard that you cannot what you want when your friends have what you want. But I can confidently say that you can do all the things that you want even though you don’t have the materials. I can confidently say that Daddy and I spend more time with you and your brother more than the parents who provide more materials to their kids. Maybe it is more obvious to you to see the materials that others have, but for me, I can more about the time and energy we can spend together.

I will learn more patience and wisdom to guide you. And hope one day you will understand.

Love,
Mommy
3/26/2018

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開始不吃動物製品, 原起是為了健康,  也為了環保. 這些之前道理都懂, 遲遲沒有付出行動是因為覺得, “我每天早上都吃吐司加蛋, 我不想放棄蛋阿!" “我不想放棄吃魚阿!" “我好喜歡拿雞湯當湯底阿!" 直到年底旅行, 回家前一天在鳳凰城的一家二手書店隨手拿起Dr. Neal Barnard的書 (之前就看過他的TED Talk), 越看越發現, 其實能吃的東西很多. 之前覺得不能放棄的食品, 也有很多健康的代替品, 就這樣, 隨著2018年的開始, 我也漸漸走向 “plant base diet." 牛牛也很支持這樣的選擇, 因為 “我還是能吃饅頭和麵包." 他這樣說. 🙂

“與其注意不能吃甚麼, 要看能吃甚麼." 因為心態的轉變, 所以不覺得吃有太多的不習慣. 反而積極地去尋找不曾留意的食材, 每天都發現簡單又健康的食譜, 迫不及待地要試試.

年初的家族聚會, 去的吃到飽餐廳是跟去年同家的. 那家餐廳有名的是中間有個蒙古烤肉的大鐵板. 本以為會沒東西吃, 驚喜地發現其實在肉類區之前他有一個蔬菜區- 我愛吃的香菇米粉包心菜花椰菜都有. 以往這些都被我當肉的裝, 這次變成主角, 裝滿滿的一大碗. 最棒的是, 吃完覺得很滿足也不覺得稱.

小孩的飲食我們不強迫. 他們依然吃漢堡, 吃魚. 我也隨緣, 上周去朋友家作客臨時被留下吃晚餐, 太太做了義大利肉醬麵, 我們甚麼都沒說, 依舊吃下肚. 但肉醬方面有特別節制, 也刻意地多吃了幾盤女主人準備的青菜, 還學了一道 – 炒kale with shiitake mushroom. (我一直都不知道怎麼吃kale, 生的對我而言太難嚼了)

進入plant based diet 已將近兩星期, 目前很喜歡, 早上起來不會特別飢餓, 但也不會有 “前晚的食物還沒消化完"的感覺. 另外還有幾個完全意想不到的好處:

  1. 我開始買比較多的水果, 小孩放學一回家吵著肚子餓就有得吃, 不會去翻零食.
  2. 做菜的時候不用再擔心生肉衛生的問題.
  3. 清洗碗盤時不再那麼黏膩. (Dr. Barnard也提倡減少用油, 因為吃的乾果蔬菜穀類已提供人體需要的油的分量.)
  4. 廚房的垃圾桶不再那麼臭.

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When the kids were little, I thought that I was taking care of them and having the total control of their lives. As they grow older, I haven’t changed, but they do. Constantly.

I notice that when I get impatient with S, she is also not happy with me. Unlike when she was little, any conflict between us can be easily solved with a hug and a kiss, she would shout down responding to me even I plead for forgiveness. Impatience is a bad habit of mine, but I need to learn and grow with my kids, so we can have healthy communication.

Yesterday, after dinner and exercising in my room, I heard the laughter from the kids’ rooms as they were playing with Auntie. They see Auntie about once or twice a week and every time she is here, they have fun. I was trying to think that what I did with them the night before- I can’t think of any. Our weekday routine after work: I am in the kitchen preparing dinner while N plays Lego in his room and S reads books in her room; after dinner, it’s their screen time; after screen time, it’s wash and brush time, and then they go to sleep. I really didn’t spend much time with them during weekdays.

I want to change that. Even though I need “Me" time after work, I know that I can spend at least 15 minutes with them- either is playing with them after dinner, or talk to them when they are ready for bed. So at least they have a “Mommy and Me" time everyday.

So my goal for tonight- let them have screen time while I preparing dinner, so we can play after dinner.

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開學以來, 小幫浦都睡自己房間偶爾周末會來跟我睡,弟弟在自己的房間和牛牛睡, 幾次問他們要不要來主臥室跟我睡, 他們都說不要。上星期姊姊去好朋友家參加生日會, 大家看了電影 Babe後她又跑來我房間睡了 (“I hate movies…. they are creepy." She said.) 然後不知道哪天, 弟弟也在我房間睡著.

於是這星期又開始三明治的睡覺. 知道他們越大我們越不可能這樣睡,我只想珍惜僅有的機會.

星期六早上,牛牛去Cream Pan買早餐, 我們三人在賴床. 弟弟畢竟是弟弟,閒不住地弄東弄西把我惹火了, 先是對他發脾氣, 突然想到下星期這時間我就沒辦法跟他們一起賴床, 我跟他說只想珍惜這段時間, 講著講眼淚就掉下來. 弟弟看著我, 似懂非懂, 也流 下了眼淚.

我擁著他, 告訴他, 媽媽幾天就回來了.

想想幾個月前看到我哭他還無動於衷, 現在已經會感同身受, 看到我掉淚也跟著掉淚. 雖然不確定他的哭點跟我的哭點一不一樣, 確定的是,我眼中的baby漸漸長大了。


今天下午J來家裡babysit. 大男孩帶著小男孩玩得很好。想當初結婚時J才幾個月大, 現在已經是高中生能幫忙照顧小孩了.

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