面對苦難

From "the Arit of Happiness": Transforming Suffering

 

It (by reflecting on the types of suffering that we are subject to) may help you mentally cope with it (suffering), reduce the fear and so on, but it does not alleviate the problem itself.

….how you perceive life as a whole pays a role in your attitude about suffering. For instance, if your basic outlook is that suffering is negative and must be avoided at all costs and in some sense is a sign of failure, this will add a distinct psychological component of anxiety and intolerance when you encounter difficult circumstances…On the other hand, if you basic outlook accepts that suffering is a natural part of your existence, this will undoubtedly make you more tolerant toward the adversities of life.

.. There is a  possibility of freedom from suffering.

 

…According to Buddhist thought, the root causes of suffering are ignorance, craving, and hatred…..by generating insight into the true nature of reality and eliminating afflictive state of mind such as craving and hatred, one can achieve a completely purified state of mind, free from suffering. Within in a Buddhist context, when one reflects on the fact that one’s ordinary day-to-day existence is characterized by suffering, this serves to encourage one to engage in the practices that will eliminate the root causes of one’s suffering. Otherwise, if there was no hope, or no possibility of freedom from suffering, mere reflection on suffering just becomes morbid thinking, and would be quite negative.

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“But it’s not fair!”

from The Art of Happiness: Transforming suffering

 

In our daily life, problems invariably arise. But problems themselves do not automatically cause suffering. If we can directly address our problem and focus our energies on finding a solution, for instance, the problem can be transformed into a challenge. If we throw into the mix, however, a feeling that our problem is “unfair,” we add an additional ingredient that can become a powerful fuel in creating mental unrest and emotional suffering. And now we no only have 2 problems instead of one, but that feeling of “unfairness” distracts us, consumes us, robs us of the energy needed to solve the original problem.

 

..They (Tibetans” will attribute it (difficult situations) to negative actions committed in either this or a previous life, and so there is a greater degree of acceptance.

 

…Karma means “action.” Karma is a very active process. And when we talk of Karma, or action, it is the very action committed by an agent, in this case, ourselves, in the past. So what type of future will come about, to a large extent, lies within our own hands in the present. It will be determined by the kind of initiatives that we take now.

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=P

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Meditation on Compassion

From “the Art of Happiness”:

 

In generating compassion, you start by recognizing that you do not want suffering and that you have a right to have happiness. This can be verified or validated by your own experience. You then recognize that other people, just like yourself, also do not want to suffer and that they have a right to have happiness. So this becomes the basis of your beginning to generate compassion.

…for the first three minutes of the meditation, reflect that individual’s suffering in a more analytic way – think about their intense suffering and the unfortunate state of that person’s existence….next, try to relate that to yourself, thinking, “that individual has the same capacity for experiencing pain, joy, happiness, and suffering that I do.” Then, try to allow your natural response to arise – a natural feeling of compassion towards that person. Try to arrive a conclusion: thinking how strongly you wish for that person to be free from that suffering. And resolve that you will help that person to be relived from their suffering. Finally, place your mind single-pointedly on that kind of conclusion or resolution, and for the last few minutes of the meditation try to simply generate your mind in a compassionate or love state.

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另一半的神話

傳說中　原本住在地球上的人類是四隻手四隻腳　他們的背與身體型成一個圓形

這樣能夠自給自足、沒有性別的人類非常的自大而且不時地攻擊諸神

為了懲罰這樣的無禮　宙斯用雷霆將人類劈成兩半

於是　每一個人類都變成了兩個　

而每個"一半"　從此終其一生地尋覓他們的另一半

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馬克吐溫說

沒有人真的知道什麼是完美的愛, 直到他們結婚了四分之一個世紀

Mark Twain says, "no man or woman really knows what perfect love is until they have been married a quarter of a century…"

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前進北海道 前進台北

機票買了

JR Pass 買了

旅館訂了

跟爸媽　公婆小姑報告了

咱小倆口要出國+回國啦

 

9/18-9/28　日本：北海道&東北&東京

9/29-10/2　台北, 主要目：探望公婆　陪陪剛動完手術的公公

 

謝謝采純的建議與提供的網站　幫助很大呢

目前不太確定的是兩天在日本東北要怎麼玩　有經驗的玩家請提供意見囉=D

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上太極課囉

上星期因為貓爸貓媽來而錯過第一堂課

今天第一次上課覺得很有趣

 

星期六早上　南加州的太陽還在霧裡　空氣稍寒

活動筋骨的感覺很舒暢

從鏡子中偷看寶貝做　他的臉好嚴肅　嘴巴嘟嘟向下垂

看起來像在生氣　其實那是認真的表情

 

站在我後面的太太是班上的小老師之一

指導我幾個動作後一直說　"you are so balanced." "it’s perfect."

怪不好意思的　其實我很菜啦

 

寶貝問我　它跟瑜珈有什麼差別

我覺得　瑜珈有一半在強調呼吸均勻　太極則是完全著重於肢體動作

瑜珈強調平衡　比如說　有往下的姿勢就有往上的　有往左就有往又

太極類似　說法則是陰與陽

 

瑜珈和太極都是很重視身心合一

順著自然的韻律與節奏

所以做完都很舒服

 

我問寶貝有什麼感想

他說　聯想到倚天屠龍記

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培養正面思考的步驟

覺得自己"有慧根但還沒開竅"

很多道理都知道　只是好習慣難培養、壞習慣難除

 

達賴喇嘛提到的這個方法 我也要來試試看:

第一　了解一件事情的正面價值:  learn about the positive vlaue of the practices

(比如說有人對我生氣　是因為他們在乎我做的事情)

第二　建立決心: build up determination

(我的底線是　要保持和諧的關係  "People first, then money, then things)

第三　試著實踐這份決心:  try to implement them

(跟大家做好朋友　世界才會更美好唷)

 

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The more sophisticated your level of education and knowledge about what leads to happiness and what causes suffering, the more effective you will be in achieving happiness.

 

…the most importance of engaging in more wholesome actions and bringing about discipline within our minds. The proper utilization of our intelligence and knowledge is to effect changes from within to develop a good heart.

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TOP OF THE WORLD

Such a feelin’s comin’ over me
There is wonder in most everything I see
Not a cloud in the sky
Got the sun in my eyes
And I won’t be surprised if it’s a dream

Everything I want the world to be
Is now coming true especially for me
And the reason is clear
It’s because you are here
You’re the nearest thing to heaven that I’ve seen

I’m on the top of the world lookin’ down on creation
And the only explanation I can find
Is the love that I’ve found ever since you’ve been around
Your love’s put me at the top of the world

Something in the wind has learned my name
And it’s tellin’ me that things are not the same
In the leaves on the trees and the touch of the breeze
There’s a pleasin’ sense of happiness for me

There is only one wish on my mind
When this day is through I hope that I will find
That tomorrow will be just the same for you and me
All I need will be mine if you are here

I’m on the top of the world lookin’ down on creation
And the only explanation I can find
Is the love that I’ve found ever since you’ve been around
Your love’s put me at the top of the world

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